I have had a few people reach out to me in the last week about how lonely they feel.
Each person is what I would call woke. They are highly awake and consciously aware of the world and what is going on around them. They see other people and wonder how they can’t be like that too, so when they spend time with them they either have a tendency to say things that others might find offensive or stay at home and be alone.
This is common when you work on yourself. It’s as though the lights are on all the time for you, but others are in the dark. You care, so you want to flip on the light switch so they can see too, they but look at you like you’re crazy because they don’t even see a light switch at all.
You find yourself spending more and more time alone because of this. It’s out of protection. You have to preserve your energy for you and not put it out there on others who are not ready to receive it.
The more you work on yourself, the less tolerance you have for people who talk for the sake of talking. It’s amazing how much people talk and say nothing. Absolutely nothing!
I’m a good listener, so I have sat in rooms with people and asked questions, basically taken an interest in those I am spending time with, and it is amazing how little people say. Surface bs where I have no clue what they stand for, what they are passionate about or what drives them as a person.
Quite frankly, it’s exhausting. Hearing the constant chatter but not having a “real” conversation. What is that? I see most people as 5 year old children now. You can see so clearly how they didn’t get the attention they wanted. It’s like you are in a room with a bunch of kids having temper tantrums.
So, I don’t go out much anymore. I don’t go to parties, happy hours or anything I am invited to, unless it’s with someone I find authentic. I have done this way before the current pandemic situation. I would rather spend time with my kids, my sister or myself, than anyone.
If you’re awake and feel like you are all alone, you’re not. Every now and then we need a reminder of that. Cause it gets tough. Just remember that it doesn’t matter if anyone else gets you, you get you, and that’s all that really matters.